Truth or dare questions for adults: 60 spicy truths and 15 dares for every situation

The golden rules before the first question

Truth or dare is one of the oldest party games around, and one of the easiest to get wrong. A few rules keep it fun for everyone:

• Anyone can skip, a truth as well as a dare, with no explanation and no forfeit.
• Honest, but kind: answer truthfully, never in a way designed to hurt.
• What's said in the game stays in the game. Nobody repeats the answers the next day.
• Mind the exes: questions about past partners can sting when your current one is listening. Leave them out unless everyone is relaxed about it.
• Start soft: the first rounds set the tone. Raise the intensity gradually.
• Every dare needs a yes: when a dare involves someone else, that person has to agree.

Truth or dare questions for adults in a new couple

You're still discovering each other. These questions are flirty, curious and just a little revealing.

1. What was the very first thing you noticed about me?
2. At what exact moment did you first want to kiss me?
3. Be honest: what did you think of our first kiss?
4. Which of my outfits do you find hardest to resist?
5. What would you love me to whisper in your ear?
6. What attracts you most: a look, a voice or a scent?
7. Have you ever thought about me at a completely inappropriate moment? Where were you?
8. Which small gesture of mine drives you crazy?
9. What does your ideal lazy Sunday morning with me look like?
10. Is there something you've wanted to try with me but haven't dared to ask?
11. What's the most seductive thing someone could do on a first date?
12. Where would you like me to kiss you, right now?

Spicy truth questions for long-term couples

After years together, the right question can still surprise you. These bring back memories and open a few new doors.

1. Which memory of us still gives you butterflies?
2. What's something I do that you love but have never told me about?
3. Which night together would you most like to relive?
4. Is there something we used to do at the beginning that you miss?
5. Where would you like us to kiss that we never have?
6. What's a fantasy you've carried around for a while without mentioning it?
7. If we had a whole weekend with no phones and no obligations, how would you spend it?
8. What outfit would you love to see me wear, just once?
9. When did you last find me irresistible without my knowing?
10. Which of my habits do you secretly find attractive?
11. What would you like more of: tenderness, surprises or boldness?
12. What's one thing you'd like us to try together before the end of the year?

Questions to play with friends

With friends, the goal is laughter and a few confessions, not awkward silences. These stay playful.

1. What's the cheesiest chat-up line you've ever used, or fallen for?
2. What's the most embarrassing thing that's ever happened to you on a date?
3. Which celebrity would make you drop everything for one evening?
4. What's the boldest thing you've ever done to get someone's attention?
5. What's the most unusual place you've ever kissed someone?
6. What's your secret weapon when it comes to seduction?
7. Describe the worst date of your life in one sentence.
8. Which song puts you in the mood every single time?
9. What's the most unexpected thing you find attractive in someone?
10. Which film scene do you find secretly sexy?
11. Have you ever sent a flirty message to the wrong person? What did it say?
12. What's the most romantic thing you've ever attempted that went completely wrong?

Would you rather: the adult edition

Multiple-choice questions are perfect for breaking the ice: there are no wrong answers, only revealing ones.

1. Would you rather be kissed on the neck or on the back of the hand?
2. Would you rather wear the blindfold or hold it?
3. Would you rather receive a long massage or perform a short striptease?
4. Would you rather spend a weekend in a remote cabin or a night in a luxury hotel?
5. Would you rather lead all evening or be led?
6. Would you rather be woken up with kisses or with breakfast in bed?
7. Would you rather slow-dance in the kitchen or go for a midnight swim?
8. Would you rather be told exactly what to do or say exactly what you want?
9. Would you rather wear something daring under a formal outfit, or know your partner is?
10. Would you rather have candles and silk sheets, or laughter and a pillow fight?
11. Would you rather read your partner's mind for one night, or have them read yours?
12. Would you rather have a long kiss or a long, lingering look?

Party questions for groups

These only work with an audience, ideally three players or more. They get people looking at each other differently, so keep the tone friendly.

1. Who in this room has the most seductive voice?
2. Which player would you trust to blindfold you?
3. Going on instinct alone, who here do you think is the best kisser?
4. If you had to slow-dance with someone here, who would it be?
5. Who's the biggest flirt in the room?
6. Which couple here looks the most in love?
7. Who would you choose as your wingman or wingwoman for a night out?
8. What was your first impression of the person on your left?
9. Who here would last the longest without blushing during this game?
10. Who has the best style tonight?
11. Who here do you think has the most daring secret?
12. Which player would you trust to plan a naughty evening for you?

Spicy dares for when someone picks “dare”

Fifteen dares to answer all those truths. They stay sensual and playful; adapt them to who's playing.

1. Kiss your partner's neck for ten seconds, as slowly as you can.
2. Whisper in your partner's ear what you'd like to happen later tonight.
3. Massage your partner's shoulders for one minute without saying a word.
4. Blindfold your partner and kiss them in three places of your choice. They must guess the order.
5. Take off one item of clothing as theatrically as possible.
6. Pay the player of your choice a compliment so flattering it makes them blush.
7. Describe your partner's most attractive feature in a whisper, without using the words “eyes” or “smile”.
8. Dance for your partner until the first chorus of a song they choose.
9. Hold your partner's gaze for thirty seconds, your faces inches apart, without kissing.
10. Trace the outline of your partner's lips with a fingertip, slowly, then kiss them once.
11. Let your partner give you one order that you must follow until your next turn.
12. Sit on your partner's lap until the end of the round.
13. Swap one item of clothing with your partner and keep it on until the end of the game.
14. Show the group how you'd try to seduce someone at a bar, with your partner as the target.
15. Kiss your partner's hand, then the wrist, then the inside of the elbow.

What the online game adds

Lists are great, but they run out. The adult truth or dare goes much further:

• More than 200 truths: intimate questions, confessions about desires and memories, and multiple-choice questions.
• More than 600 dares in five levels: Closeness, Sensual, Hot, Burning and No taboos. The last two are there only for those who choose them.
• Party questions from three players, written for groups and never shown to a couple playing on their own.
• The No jealousy option: tick it, and questions about exes, past experiences and other touchy subjects are left out. Ideal when couples are playing together; you'll find it in the naughty board game too.
• Private limits: each player unticks what they refuse, and the game never shows it to the others. Dares only bring together compatible players.
• Skip, always: any card can be skipped without penalty, and the Stop button is always visible.
• One phone or several: pass the phone around, or each play on your own with remote play.

For challenges rather than questions, see our 50 naughty dare ideas. Playing with friends? Our guide to naughty games to play with friends explains how to keep the evening comfortable for everyone. And for a swinger party game, compatibility and privacy matter even more.